jgh:
- Do not let more than 1 day go by without contacting her (Stalker much?)
- Be on time (That applies to all situations, not just dates.)
- Open her car door (I can open that myself, thanks.)
- Help her put her coat on (I can dress myself too, I’m a big girl now!)
- Hold the door for her to enter/leave an establishment first (Once again, I can do that myself.)
- Pull her chair out for her in the restaurant (Is this a list of things I’m forbidden to do or something?)
- Order for her (Note – this does not mean tell her what she’s going to have for dinner. Have a conversation about what she wants and then when the waiter comes, order for her.) (I’m capable of talking to people other than the date.)
- At the end of your date, don’t drive off until she’s safely inside (Because a mouse might run out of the bushes and I’ll lose my wits and be unable to find the door.)
Bolded words are mine. Where’s the part on the list where you’re respectful and not patronizing? Treat her for who she is: a human being, not a helpless doll.
Order for her!? Help me put my coat on!?
I would be seething with rage if the guy did any of the above, besides being on time. Treat me like a human being, not a pet. (I do think it’s nice to wait until someone is inside before leaving but that’s true for either gender!)
Here’s my one rule; because even when things don’t work out, it means they weren’t supposed to: Be Yourself
